Curious about the profile of a "fishkeeper".

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Snowboss4492
 
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by Snowboss4492

portfolio manager....lol.......i bet your getting pretty busy these day eh? with people trying to figure out how to stay alive in this friggin economy....i don't envy your job at all bud...................i landscape for a living and golf when i can {the wife and i just took it up last season, and we love it .........wish there was more time to play but oh well..................the fish tank is my theropy for sure ... i can come home totally pissed about the day...grab a cold diet dew and stare into the tank for 20-30 minutes and everything is ok ......................

I love the idea of sending a tank to the ovum office lmao..........but we might be sending it to the round crib yo...........too.....lol...................lets hope we dont have to send it to the war room ........................love to all.............Snowboss


WilliamG5645
 
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by WilliamG5645

Diet Dew runs through my vains!!!!! I live off that stuff... it's like crack for me. If I don't have a Diet Dew, I get cranky. LOL

Yea, my job is super stressful, but we deal with mostly institutions or very high net worth individuals, so they can afford the ups and downs a little more. But, dealing with clients in these markets are not fun, because they want to sell at the bottom and its my job to talk them out of it.


Poetic_Irony2267
 
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by Poetic_Irony2267

lol either the ovum office or the round crib, either way your right it's better than the death chamber we could have.... ok enough politics, it makes my skin crawl, LOL more fish...

william i work for a law firm handling loss mitigation for our mortgage clients, let me tell you the default industry is deff at an all time high, i deal with borrowers all day everyday mitigating between them and our clients trying to come to a term that is mutually beneficial to both! which is not easy when your borrower has filed chptr 7 and the client has started foreclosure... law is fun and interesting but super stressful when you get an elderly person who is crying on one line and your getting yelled at by the bank on the other for trying to get the rate down enough so they can keep the home they have been in for thirty something years, at the end of the day i feel as if i have accomplished something though because it all works out the banks get their money and the home owner keeps their house at a better payment and interest rate. but still it's stressful, this is one of the reasons for my switch from cichlids of all kinds to discus and peaceful fish, i just want to see them swim and be pretty and happy and healthy and watch them grow with their different personalities that they develop. it's a pretty relaxing hobby when all goes well. and at the moment after the meetings i have had today my veins are filled with corona and lime!!!!


gumbii
 
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by gumbii

wow... i didn't know there was an older crowd with it comes to the hobby... i frequent alot of BETTER forums and they're usually around my age or in thier 30's... i guess because this forum is more fail/slower paced than all of those other aggressive forums... but the idea is somewhat the same...



and as for me...
my real name is gumbii garcia, 26 y/o mexican living in los angeles... i'm not "employed" right now, but i make ends meet repairing/restoring/rebuilding cars in my house... i don't do tune ups... i only do major work... i own my house and have thousands of gallons worth of fish and ponds... i breed snakes, dogs, hamsters, rats, pigeons, exotic/extinct to the wild fish, and several species of venomous snakes... i have a zoo at my house...

some other truths of gumbii... i have my associate's degree and bachelor's in automotive technology/technitian... i'm ASE certified in 6 different catagories... i have 3 adopted children... i'm bisexual... i have two strikes, one involving murder... i was running all of the gangs in my neighborhood last year... since i was 16 i've been a professional body piercer... and i'm a musician... i play the bass...




that is all...





discuss...


Peterkarig3210
 
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by Peterkarig3210

Well. Since everybody's laying themselves out here, I'll say a little about myself.

I'm 42 and lived in Ithaca NY till about 12 years ago. I used to do all kinds of work from restaurant/catering to construction, roofing, painting, and proffesional mowing. I also used to be part of a weird cult where we grew mushrooms and had weekend get togethers at our "church" of sorts. Nothing Satanic or black magick. It was when I was younger and had log hair and we had a lot of fun until the group fell apart due to ego and control issues. I plan to write a book about those years.

My best friend died of alcoholism at 28 and it kicked me in the butt to do something constructive with my life, so, as many of my friends did I decided to attend one of the best massage schools in the country in Gainesville FL. I was trying to figure out how I was going to pay for this school when I got broad sided in my little 66 VW bug by a massage teacher in a pickup who used to teach massage at the very school I was about to attend in Florida. I broke my pelvis in 2 places, collapsed a lung, and had my broken ribs almost pop out of my chest. I also had a huge hematoma and stayed in the hospital for a week hooked up to wonderful morphine and getting visited by what seemed like hundreds of my friends.

Anyway, the accident gave me the money to pay for massage school and I spent the next 6 months in Florida getting massages every day and thoroughly enjoying myself. My "rave" band from Ithaca where I played congas (I studied under Baba Olentunji and some other great teachers), moved to the Bay area and I decided to join them.

I first moved to Los Angeles from Ithaca because the whole settlement from the accident hadn't come in yet and lived off my mom for a couple of months. I got tired of waiting for the settlement and got massage work in West Hollywood of all places and soon after met the mother of my now 9 year old son, a cute little Afghan woman. I worked in spas for about 10 years and eventually burned out with that kind of work. I also had disc problems and had to go on disability. I pretty much healed up and went back to school for respiratory therapy and finally got my AA (I'm a terrible student), and due to some things on my record I had to wait 6 months to get my RT licence after graduating. I got hired at UCLA and blew it by coming in late the first day and they promptly fired me. Since then I've been tutoring students at my school and doing private massages for $100 a pop (therapeutic massage).

I've had a really cute little black 32 year old girlfriend whose so damned cute I feel like a white maggot next to her and the relationship has been pretty messed up. I guess I felt sorry for her as her life was hell and she was struggling with her 2 kids, so I had her move in with me. I ended up being the parent for my son, her 2 kids, and her. She worked at about 10 different strip clubs and almost got into porn, and after getting used for too long and tolerating way too much drama I had her leave to live with her mom again. I had cooked all the meals, bought all the food, and paid all the bills when she lived with me and she felt as if I upstaged her as a parent. The fact is, she is the worst mother I've ever known, and if it weren't for the great sex we would have nothing in common.

Anyway, for the last year she's been begging me to take her back and even tattooed my name on her ass and I have been seeing her as a girlfriend but I keep an emotional wall up and I've retained my apartment and my space. I don't know where our relationship is going, but the cruncher is that I don't want to parent with her anymore. My son had been living with me till he was 6 and when I went back to school he went to live with his mom in NM. Somehow I ended up being a really good dad for my son Adam and he's a universe more mature emotionally and mentally than her kids who eat crap, fight all the time, and create way too much drama.

I don't want my son around this woman's kids ever again, and he is more important to me than having a cute girlfriend, so I believe when I get into my new carreer and start making some real money I'm going to dump her. I owe her nothing at this point. I drained 20 grand into her and her kids to get ridiculous betrayal in return, and at this point I keep making excuses not to see her kids because I don't want to lead them on as a father figure if I don't plan to stick it out. She cheated way too much and unfortunately permanently destroyed any trust or dreams for the future with her.

I am going to get out of the city and buy some land in upstate NY near my dad and stepmom and I hope to have my son with me when he is a teenager. We'll have a big N-scale train empire, grow our own veggies, and have fishtanks and other hobbies. I deserve a woman who won't stunt my son and ruin my life. I'm kinda living a lie as she probably thinks I will be with her forever, but I won't be able to bring her and her kids up to my son's maturity. Her and her kids will bring Adam down.

It's sad, but I have to continue to be a great father for Adam, and my love-life comes second to him. I don't have any real love in my heart for this woman because I let her damage me too much. I first have to get my carreer on track, and second, be a good dad for my son. After that a proper mother figure can come into the picture, but I won't be ready for a while.

There's peace and ease in my home with Adam. I never need to punish him, and there's trust. It's the greatest feeling in the world to succeed in raising a well rounded and intelligent son. I have no room in my future for garbage food, a clueless mother, and outrageous drama that happens every day with her kids.

I know I could turn her kids around and they would have direction and skills, but she will never be able to join with me and parent correctly as a team, so alas, I'll probably need to move on from her.

So there's a quick look at my pathetic but interesting life. The parents I grew up with taught me lots of skills including how to work hard. They are scientists and I've always had the inteligence and culture they've been able to give to me in spite of my wasting most of my youth on partying and low paying jobs. At 42 I'm finally getting my act together it seems, and I'm really looking forward to earning a real income and being a great dad for my son.

I've experimented with plenty of things Gumbii, Brandon, and Zambize, but came to feel most attracted to the female gender emotionally and sexually. As a massage therapist I've met thousands of interesting people and though it's a hard way to make a living it was great for teaching me about people.

I have a weakness of telling too much about myself. That's just me I guess.


WilliamG5645
 
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by WilliamG5645

And this is why forums are great. Thanks for the post. You sound like a good person who is trying to be an even better father. Best of luck to you Peter, and God bless.


Peterkarig3210
 
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by Peterkarig3210

I raised him to enjoy the things I'm into like modern freight trains, the natural sciences, and aquariums. I think that some parents think they are doing everything perfectly and wonder why their kids end up choosing to get into destructive things.

I think you have it made if you actively engage your kids in what you like to do as adults. Don't just think that kids will be kids and let TV, video games, the school, and fad culture program who they are. It's important to see through their eyes and have them see through yours and engage them early in the issues of adults. Until their hormones are flowing they have no interest in sex and I find that explaining adult issues is healthy. It's when you freak out about things like sex that you steer them into trouble. My kid knows what sex is all about and he actually gets more bored than anything else with the topic. I tell him that when he's older it will mean something to him.

He's into martial arts, soccer, and birds of all things. I'm more and more impressed by him as time goes by, and thankfully I have a great relationship with his mothers parents and herself, so there is a very good chance I'll get him back when he's a teenager.


Poetic_Irony2267
 
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by Poetic_Irony2267

peter it really sounds like you have already got your @##$ together, moving on and away from that woman sounds like the best thing you can do, if there is no love then there really is nothing, honestly with all you have going for you i don't doubt you will find that woman that steels your heart and is just what you need for yourself and your son. that said you are definitely someone to look up to, i've done my partying and playing around all of that has done nothing but brought me hang overs and headaches, life that is drama free is the best feeling in the world, yeah there are little bouts of drama but that's just life, when you can get the major stuff under control the rest just seems to fall into place, by no means am i a rich man financially, however i consider myself richer than most others by considering the friends and family and most of all my partner who puts up with my incessant spending of our earnings on my fish tank and other hobbies. LOL anyone who can stand that deserves a gold medal in my book. i know i just rambled from topic to topic but i feel you all will gat the gist of what i am saying. LOL

signing off for the night
Brandon


Peterkarig3210
 
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by Peterkarig3210

Ramble away Brandon!

It's like I'm split with this woman. I was indeed totally in love with her and I sowed seeds of myself into her heart over the years. She didn't grow up with a father and the family priest her mother is in love with molested her when she was a teenager. I feel for this woman. The cheating and exploration of stripping (she didn't make any money because she didn't do lap dances. She just wanted to spin around the pole) I can get over, but the fact that she is so different than me in terms of worldly knowledge and basic family skills makes a shard family experience virtually impossible.

For instance I will go to the library and pick out books I think are unique and have a message and I know how to read to children in a way that keeps their attention and makes them think. She gets upset because when she tries to read to these kids they fight, get bored, and don't have the same kind of experience they have when I read to them. I've been a cook for restaurants and my family has huge gardens full of vegetables, and she can't cook really at all. I can't be less of a good father and eat spaghetti and pizza every day, have all kinds of junk food in the house, and stop cooking delicious healthy meals when my son is in the picture so she can feel more of a mother.

It breaks my heart really because I do love this woman even though I try to protect myself emotionally now, but I have to choose my son's growth and development over her and her children. If I ever got back to living with her those same issues that caused her to seek validation from other men would come up again and it would vortex back into a nightmare with me home alone with the children.

Why I have the most beautiful woman I've ever known, have this amazing chemistry, and at the same time have to leave her is heart wrenching. I'm just going to take it a step at a time. She already knows that she needs to have the experience and derive the self worth from getting her life together without a mans help, but I'm afraid she's up against a very hard journey. She was passed through high school because she was on the running team and they were undefeated, so she doesn't even know the multiplication tables. She does massage now at a woman's spa and it doesn't pay a living wage. She's also burning out as I experienced, as the trade is very grueling after a while, and it doesn't go anywhere. She wants to get into nursing and be an LVN but she would have to basically redo high school first, and before that she needs to learn how to learn in the first place as like I said she was passed through high school so she could stay on the running team.

I feel that in some way I will always be a guiding spirit looking over her even if I'm not meant to live the fest of my life with her.

Anyway, in all of life's ecstasy and tragedy there is always beauty. Even if nuclear war wiped out all human and animal life on this planet there will still be that beautiful rise, curl, and break of the never ending waves on the beach.

The morning sunrise and the evening sunset will always come and go every day each unique from the rest.

Water will always run from high mountain peaks and from steep torrents of mountain streams to slow wide gentle rivers full of majesty and power,

and eventually all will flow to the sea only to be reborn again as a molecule, a rain drop, a mountain cloud burst.


Bla blablablablabla. I get so I can't stop sometimes.


Peterkarig3210
 
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by Peterkarig3210

This thread was getting interesting. Are there any others who want to spill their drama?

And what is a POTUS anyway?
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